Sometimes we need a reminder that all of life isn’t what we know. We can make our own misery. We can make our own happiness. It is all about changing our perspective and how we train our minds to speak to us.
This is my year that I have been focused on transforming myself into a happier and healthier version of myself. One way I hope to do that is through changing the way I speak about myself. It seems like an easy goal for the new year, but it is hard. I know that I am not alone on this goal when I cam across Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversations with Bishop T.D. Jakes. And you know that if Oprah promotes it then it is going to be amazing.
A goal of the new year for me has been to work on being happier and healthier. One of the ways I hope to accomplish that goal is by learning how to erase the negative voice in my head. But it is easier said than done when it comes to erasing self doubt.
Then I was gifted with the book, The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown. She has been featured on Oprah and TED Talks. She is a writer and research. She breaks down the shame and fear we face in life such as the fear of standing out or being enough. She explains the psychological why along with how we can reverse the process. In the end, readers and practicers of these steps will move toward what she calls “wholehearted living” or simply embracing who you are.
Have you ever been asked what would you do with a million dollars if you won the lottery today?
I know I have like at least 20 times. Each time I give a different answer because I have no idea what that kind of money is like.
How often has money clouded your thoughts? Has it made sad or happy?
Many think that if they had a little more money they would be happy. I see this especially true in my family. My grandmother grew up in the Great Depression in America when money was an item that one would scarcely come across. She spent her youth pinching every penny and dime that she could to feed and care for her family. My mother and father worked multiple jobs while studying in college to pay tuition and bills. So the feeling like there is never enough money is a familiar story to my family history. However, I recently learned that the money after a certain point does not make you happy.
I have a goal of a happier and healthier life this year. One of the ways I have been working towards this goal is to practice mediation. Mediation is practice best done under the guidance of a someone who builds these practices with a purpose behind them. However, what I may need from my mediation changes so I was looking for practices that could change with what I need. I also am a low on funds college student so if I could use a service that was free it was all the better for me.
Look at the person next you. What do you see? Do you see someone beautiful? Do you see someone that looks down on their luck? However, what you see isn’t necessarily who they are. The same thing can be said about you out in the world. We all have this ideal image that we continuously strive for, but we encounter unhappiness when that image doesn’t become our reality.